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[lwood]

I've been avoiding my inbox for most of the past week due to several personal and professional issues, culminating in the death of my grandmother this past weekend. It was my mother's mother, and not the one some of you have heard me speak of in glowing tones. It was expected, after long illness, and I'd said my goodbyes in November.

On the other hand, she was my first close blood relative to die.

The net result is that while I'm not screechily broken and full of jagged places, I'm a little tender. I'm just now starting to excavate my inbox, so if you've e-mailed me, I'll be able to process it within the next couple of days. It may also be that I'll have the money to fly to Cleveland and attend the services, and if that's so then I'll be out of touch then, as well.

Thank you for understanding.

-- Lorrie

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[lysana.livejournal.com]

I'm grandparentless, so I have some idea what you're going through (relationships with each of the four varied, let's just say). Tenderness is to be expected. I probably don't have to say this, but do make sure to take care of yourself through tis.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

Both of my grandfathers died before they really registered on my kinship radar, as it were. My maternal grandfather died saving my youngest uncle from drowning when my mother was ten. My paternal grandfather smoked himself to death when I was six ro seven.

My maternal grandmother came to visit every winter in late December, and again when the irises bloomed in May. She made chocolate chip cookies with walnuts in (they were Crunchy, and so I did not approve), but did have a cute name for me (which I'll not repeat). Once my parents divorced, my relationship with her grew strained and distant, but the look I got of such pure joy when, in November, I appeared without warning at the foot of her bed was simply priceless. It didn't make up for the lost years, but I know I'd be hurting more now if I hadn't done it then, so I'm grateful I was permitted that.

My paternal grandmother was, comparatively, much cooler, much more responsive and understanding of the grandchildren, and her cookies were chewy Like They Should Be. She is also, simply, one of the holiest people I know. Every step and breath is taken in the name of her Lord, and if I ever manage to glow half as well in the name of mine, I shall be content.

Her passing will hurt me summat more, I think.

Thanks for the kind words...

-- Lorrie

[dubhain.livejournal.com]

I lost my grandfather in '89 and my grandmother in '93. They raised me for the first seven years of my life. I loved them dearly.

If you need to talk lemee know, yes?

[lwood.livejournal.com]

's cool, but thanks!

-- Lorrie

[temve.livejournal.com]

*pets the raven2r*

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs the shelled peas*

-- Lorrie

[velcroswench.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

Thank you...

[witchchild]

*hugs*
The only grandparent I knew was my mormor, who lived in Sweden. She passed in '97.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Well, 've still got one grandmother left.

When calling my father's side of the family, I decided the best course was to sic the last grandmother (in her serenity and obvious experience) on my mother (quite broken up).

My only regret is that there's no way I can afford the funeral...

-- Lorrie

[ertla.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Condolences and comfort on your loss.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

Thank you...

-- Lorrie

[dasubergeek.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

I'm sorry to hear that. It's never easy. Let me know if you need anything. And all in good time on the e-mail.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs* No worries -- I've decided not to beggar myself or whine for money about going to the funeral, so that's dealt with.

The e-mail is now mostly caught up. There's other schmutz that was bubbling to the surface before this what needs dealing with -- DIY psyche surgery is never fun, and this didn't help, but I'm muddling through...

-- Lorrie

[walkyrja.livejournal.com]

The wheel turns, and sasons change.

Still - hail to your grandmother at her passing. And Hugs to you.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

Aye, so it does. I'm far calmer about this than my mother was, and while that is, in part, due to the difference in emotional distance, I think that that's also due to the vast difference in mindsets.

*hugs* to you too.

-- Lorrie

[saskia139.livejournal.com]

We're with you, my friend. Losing that first kin when you're old enough to understand it is always hard, even if you weren't close to the person.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs* There's other crap that'd burbled up to the surface just now, and this was just the freaking cherry. Working through, though.

-- Lorrie

[wodandis.livejournal.com]

(((((hugs))))) and condolences for your loss.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thank you.

-- Lorrie

[shantak.livejournal.com]

*hugs* and as above, take care of yourself

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thanks...

-- Lorrie

[jasperkitty.livejournal.com]

Hugs and sympathies. Take care of yourself honey.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thanks...

-- Lorrie

[pearlshadow.livejournal.com]

hugs my dear,

please take care of yourself, do what you need to do and know that you are in "our" prayers and thoughts. please dont worry about this weekend, dealing with your family is much "more" important.

condolences and "hugs"

[lwood.livejournal.com]

No... I can't afford to go to Cleveland for the funeral -- which is scheduled for Saturday, as it happens. So I and the bazillion eggs will be at your dance-out, never fear!

Thanks for the kind words. *hugs*

-- Lorrie

[quirkwidget.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs!*

-- Lorrie

[weofodthignen]

My condolences on your loss--and my sympathies for the other schtuff implied.

Hope you were able to take the trip and that it brought you peace.

M

[lwood.livejournal.com]

Thanks a lot -- I won't be able to go, but I'm at peace about that; what was needed to be said, and done, I did in November. I knew then it'd be the last time, and when I did it, the lady was still home.

I'm given to understand that she wasn't at the end. That would have disturbed me greatly. Now she's off having a new start, however that goes, and I wish her the best.

-- Lorrie

[bojojohn.livejournal.com]

my condolences Lorrie.

[lwood.livejournal.com]

...thank you. My condolences on your loss, as well.

-- Lorrie

[arc-stormcrow.livejournal.com]

::hugs::

[lwood.livejournal.com]

*hugs* Thanks...

-- Lorrie